Stop living in your head

One house in the north of Joburg, two cars, a beautiful wife, and I am a household brand. I have travelled the country, helping people find their passion; I’m a recognized motivational speaker, and I have finally launched my non-profit organization. These are the kind of visions that pop into my head now and again. In those moments, I am truly living my best life. The images are so surreal that I can even taste the champagne that I pop during my weekend leisure.

Envisioning what you want your life to look like is an excellent source of motivation. However, I have realised that I tend to live in my head a lot. I think about my success, I can see the smiles I put on people’s faces and I can see the legion of young men who are raised to be better than our ancestors. Now because I spend too much time in my head, my fear of failure and anxiety start to build up. I begin to wonder if I will ever reach that level of success and wealth. I wonder if the dream God has placed in my heart will come to pass; I am not my questioning my God but I feel it’s a valid question. I wonder what it will take for me to accomplish all my goals.

Living in my head is an escape for me. It allows me to travel to a future date when all my sacrifices and hard work have paid off. It allows me to escape the pain of having to be the only one who supports my vision. It helps me escape the fear and worry of living a regular life. Living in my head is therapeutic. I’m able to block out the world, pause the negative emotions and live in a world full of happiness. I highly recommend that you try it for yourself. There is one thing you need to know; that it’s not real unless you make it happen. Living in your head is amazing but is also very dangerous.

I almost got stuck in my visions. I wasn’t prepared to let go and face the music. What I mean by that, I wasn’t ready to do the work. Rather than focusing and building discipline, I found excuses to tell myself that God will bless me when its time. I was low key, high key saying that God will make all my dreams come true without me having to break a sweat. I made all other kinds of excuses until I ran out of excuses. Let me tell you that running out of excuses is painful and liberating at the same time. It’s painful because you realise all the bullshit you fed yourself and it’s liberating because you finally come to the terms with the fact that no one is going to fully believe in your dreams except you. So you dust yourself and start working on your life.

I am not implying that having a clear picture of what kind of future you want to have is wrong, in fact, it’s okay. It’s okay if you are confused if you’re lost and if you’re scared. I’m just saying be careful of having a vision without the determination to work for it. No one has ever built a house by simply thinking about it. I made that mistake and I have learned from it. I think what is important is having a strategy for your life. Wishful thinking does very little for your bank balance.

The best thing is to start and do something. The best way to protect a dream is to fight and believe in it. The best way to live your dream is to invest in it. Someone once told me, “Overnight success happens over five years.” I’ll be damned if I didn’t share this with you.

All the masters of the interior, the conquerors of fear, and innovators of our life all had a dream but they also did the work that comes with the dream; the hustle is sold separately from the dream.

You will always pay the school fees in order to accomplish your goals.

Edited by: Khuleko Siwele


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